By Priscilla Aguirre
LOGOS ASSISTANT EDITOR
Some say a true friend is a person you spend most of your day with and do everything together. I agree with that but not entirely.
As you grow older, life happens and you are trying to find your own path. You don’t have to talk every minute of the day or see each other seven days of the week to have a strong friendship. If strong, when the time comes to see one another it’s as if you didn’t even stop talking.
My best friend, Leslie — also known as Lala — and I have been friends for 18 years. We first met at our church and since then we’ve stuck together. When I was 10, I moved to a small town named Raymondville in the Rio Grande Valley and Lala was my pen pal. Our parents didn’t allow us to have cell phones so we wrote letters to each other. She would catch me up on the gossip from back home and I would explain to her the small town I lived in didn’t have a mall. We continued this until I moved back to San Antonio and when I did she made me feel as if I never left.
In high school, I made some lifelong friends and lost a few along the way. My close friend, Kailee, who I’ve known since middle school, and I have developed an understanding of our friendship. Our sophomore year in high school, we were careless individuals and talked on the phone all night about Jimmy from math class. Now we text each other long paragraphs and sometimes it takes us a few days to finish that conversation. We are both growing up and finding out our parents weren’t kidding when they told us life was hard. But we still have that close relationship we had in high school.
Most of my relationships — whether they are a close buddy, an acquaintance or a colleague — have this type of friendship. We all still care for one another and would help each other if needed. I’m not saying to totally neglect your friends for two weeks and then when you feel like having fun send them a text. I’m trying to explain it’s perfectly normal to have a friendship where you don’t see each other every day.
Finding time for friends is a bit difficult when you are a full-time student and have several jobs. True friends recognize you’re busy and you will get back to them when you are finished reading those seven chapters for that one class. As my friend, Denisse, would say, “ ‘I’m sure we would all love to hang out all the time but life gets in the way with school, work or whatever shenanigans we get into nowadays.’ ”
People change and your friendship will sometimes grow apart. That’s just how it is. I don’t dislike the people that stopped being my friend because it just happens. My mother taught me you have to let go of the people that don’t really care about you. Not everyone is going to like the person you become — unless you’re Oprah, then everyone loves you — and that’s OK. Those friends are now strangers with memories and if you happen to notice them at Central Market, well then smile.
High school is over and seeing your friends every day stops. You actually have to reach out to them to make memories together. Cherish the moments you do spend time together and have fun. In college, there are great people around you so get to know them and make new friends. Get to know the exchange student sitting next to you in class or the shy person in the corner who is scared to say “Hi” first. That’s me.
I know everything I write in the column sounds a little cliché but it’s just something I’ve learned through my experiences. My elders told me this would happen and I didn’t believe them. I thought I would go to college with all my friends and have pizza for lunch every day in our penthouse. Nope. Life plays tricks on you and your plans will change. You just have to take it day-by-day and enjoy the ride.
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