B y Natalie Ortega
LOGOS STAFF WRITER
As society is ever-changing, the people of this modern generation are having to come to terms with the ways in which we were raised more often than not traditionally.
Our social environment, cultural traditions and the families we are born into have become the factors that weigh heavily in the way we view one another in relationships, friendships, and our determination or ability to overcome any odds against us to obtain an education.
The most challenging aspect of today’s generation — mainly babies born in the mid-‘80s in America and coming into America — is specifically geared with gender roles and the power distributed amongst women and men.
Traditionally and historically, men have been the ones to provide while women were to be subservient, care for the children, and be limited to the types of jobs they can attain. Education in some decades was very restricted to women.
In today’s families, the problematic situation seems to be when men and woman are having to deal with being traditional yet adhering to the modern expectations geared more towards women than men. As women now have become more open in their capability and are without question educating themselves, some men are having an internal conflict with women having more financial power than themselves. Women have internal conflicts having to pay half, work like a horse, yet be the mother, primary caretaker, be physically appealing and be able to provide their spouses with their needs intimately even after a long day at work and school.
It’s unrealistic, yet an unfortunate way in which women are held accountable for more than what they are praised for than men. This has usually been the norm historically and presently. Ironically, in today’s society men are also changing their views on their manhood which is a contradiction within itself.
Some men want to stay home and have the woman work full time. Internally the man must accept he may not always call the shots or expect as much as if he were the breadwinner or doing his equal part. Some men are nurturers and are great stay-at-home fathers. A lot of men, however, in some cultures, do not want to work and simply just want to be taken care of. A lot of men in their late 20s or early 30s are looking for what we now term a “cougar.” This is mainly due to the fact younger women will not accept that whereas older women may be looking for someone to take care of subconsciously if they had children that are grown and off to college.
Because women are more becoming more educated, and may have more financial power, some men are against having to pay child support – should there be a child born in a relationship. Granted, women are no less guilty at contributing to this stigma by using child support as a means to purposely not work, or not use it on the child at all.
While no one gender is truly to blame, the stigma nonetheless is occurring and becoming more of an issue than it once was 20 years ago.
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